Tuesday, February 20, 2007

Just a phase or something else??

Something has been bothering me, and it's been bothering me for quite a while. I have debated writing about it, but no one in my family knows about this blog...at least not yet, so it is sort of anonymous still. Ava is beginning to show sheer uncomfortableness for my husbands side of the family, to the point where it's making me not want to attend family gatherings. And it's not just in the unfamiliar surroundings of their houses....it's everywhere. Anytime we go somewhere she takes one look at my MIL or anyone in my husbands family for that matter and she lets out blood curdling, inconsolable screams. Lip quivers, legs shake..the whole she bang. And you know what aggravates me even more is that after I have spent 15 minutes trying to calm her down because something they did made her cry, they try to come and hold her again. I thought maybe it had something to do with me being in her sight and her wanting me, but my husband has her right now (as I'm getting ready for round #2 of tennis) and I called to check in with him and he said as soon as they walked into his grandmothers house it all started again. Now it's not like they are total strangers, I mean they have spent more time with her than some of my friends and all she does is laugh and play with them. I don't get it...and it makes me anxious every time we are around them. We don't ask them to watch her much, mainly because of this...but they seem to think that we don't want them to ever babysit. She's not the only grand baby so they have plenty of experience, and I'm not worried that they have done anything to her, I just can't make sense of it all.

Am I crazy??? Is this something that she is going to grow out of or could there possibly be something wrong??? This is taking stranger anxiety to a whole new level for me.


mamaof2sweetangelboys said...

I was going to say she's @ the age where stranger anxiety steps in but that does take it to a new level :( Hopefully it's just a phase & Ava will outgrow it soon! Good luck :)

Ute said...

Yes, it is perfectly normal for this age. It is a phase babies have around this age and again around the age of two. Louisa had this phase when she was baptized, all the familiy around and nobody was allowed to hold her. Don't push her, accept that she will just be with you and your husband and tell the familiy to accept as well. As far as I remember it lasted two months and then it was over. She loves her Grandma very much now and is not interested in her mum when "Oma" is around.
Hope that helps a little bit.